Once called a metalhead,Now a simple mortal...

MEXDefenderOfSteel · Post by **MEXDefenderOfSteel** » Wed Jan 16, 2008 12:19 am

How do you feel about people that once claim to love metal above all, and then they (maybe) grow up and start showing interest in other things but metal

....could happen to your brothers,friends, or even some of you

...I say metal is for life aint that right?

Avenger · Post by **Avenger** » Wed Jan 16, 2008 1:41 am

I hate threads like this.

The last thing we need is to point out those that aren't "troo" or who are/were posers.

There's way too much of this going around on other boards.

I'm just happy that I'm able to exchange thoughts with people that are in to the same music that I am, whether it be today or two years down the road.

I respect people for who they are, especially because it's not "trendy" and it takes a lot of passion, time and hard work sometimes to dig up the obscurities that we all know and love.

MEXDefenderOfSteel · Post by **MEXDefenderOfSteel** » Wed Jan 16, 2008 3:33 am

thanks for your opinion, it just happens that i lost a friend that was into metal, all of a sudden he says i have to grow up, thats bullshit, and that happens a lot thats the point of my thread, not pointing anyone

khiijol · Post by **khiijol** » Wed Jan 16, 2008 6:44 pm

i like music, of which metal is a part of. there is a good metal and bad metal, just like any other genre

Black Axe · Post by **Black Axe** » Wed Jan 16, 2008 11:12 pm

It's possible for someone to discover Metal early in life and during the development of his musical tastes (s)he might find out some other genre is to their preference. Nothing wrong with that.

What is wrong though, is completely letting go of your love for music/metal just to focus on a family life. You don't walk out on the love of your life.

MEXDefenderOfSteel · Post by **MEXDefenderOfSteel** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 2:48 am

Black Axe wrote:What is wrong though, is completely letting go of your love for music/metal just to focus on a family life. You don't walk out on the love of your life.

you got my point!

tomas · Post by **tomas** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 2:01 pm

I'm a music fan, not just a metal fan.
And I think the people who only listen to metal are boring.

voidghast · Post by **voidghast** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 4:04 pm

Having only one friend into heavy metal as much as me I can understand where you are coming from. If all of a sudden I was the only one listening to metal and he got a really short haircut and was listening to dave matthews band or something I would be pretty pissed. I would be especially upset if he told me to grow up. But as other people have stated I love good music in general. A huge portion of it is metal but the other half of it is psych/prog/folk/whatever I want.

MEXDefenderOfSteel · Post by **MEXDefenderOfSteel** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 6:37 pm

yeah thats what i mean, i would be very pissed....i dont have a problem if you listen to other kind of good music, but betraying metal all of a sudden

King Zombie · Post by **King Zombie** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 7:44 pm

I don't know, to answer such a question we would have to make metal an organization with rules and everything, like a religion or cult, for example. We would need a comitte of people deciding who is a metalhead and who isn't.

Personally, I'd HATE metal underwent such a process to rationalize it (using however a non-rational base to make further judgements,no opinion i higher than other just because) which would mosty occurr in comercial spheres.

I don't see myself as a metalhead, but I do see myself as a metal music lover. My clothing is normal, I have a few T-Shirts but unfortunatly I can't wear them cause I've gained too much weight, but I'm working on it in the gym.

I stop listening metal for certain seasons, a few weeks a year, but then I begin listening to it with even more force than before. "Betraying metal" is hole statement, don't make it an ideology, for example a considerable percentage of metalheads are religious and I don't think they are posseurs or their taste for the music is not congruent.

Anyway, as a friend of mine says not everyone is made for metal, for some it might simply be another pose they follow when looking for an identity throught their petty pathetic lives. Others might just have wanted to attract attention by saying how satanic they are and finally others well might just got bored of it.

I do think that if someone does listens metal for a pose and begins calling himself "the messenger of Baphomet on earth" and behaves like an spoiled 5 year old brat breaking things and starting out fights, is an insult to the music and all that was behind the people who compose it; I wished that kind of poeple had never found metal at all.

Either you like metal or you hate it, there can't be no middle ground here.

Keir · Post by **Keir** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 10:43 pm

MEXDefenderOfSteel wrote:thanks for your opinion, it just happens that i lost a friend that was into metal, all of a sudden he says i have to grow up, thats bullshit, and that happens a lot thats the point of my thread, not pointing anyone

I've honestly never known anyone who "gave up" on metal. If I did, I wouldn't be bothered by his choice in music, but if he was telling me to stop listening to metal and grow up I'd be pissed.

MEXDefenderOfSteel · Post by **MEXDefenderOfSteel** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 10:51 pm

is it true that if they gave up on metal, then ,they were never into metal at all?...lets say it was just a phase?

Keir · Post by **Keir** » Fri Jan 18, 2008 4:52 am

No, I don't think so. There's lots of music that I was really into at one time and now I don't listen to at all. For me, I always seem to come back to metal, even if I don't listen to it for a while it's always a part of me. However, I see no reason it has to be that way for others.

Abyss · Post by **Abyss** » Fri Jan 18, 2008 5:57 am

Most people that leave metal for good were never really into it much in the first place,I'm not talking about taking a break or something I'm talking about selling all your metal and denying you ever listened to it which is what I believe Mex is talking about,such people were usually into a few mainstream bands or something, I know there is always exceptions to this rule but someone that was serious about metal never just flat out abandons it.

great_knuthulhu · Post by **great_knuthulhu** » Fri Jan 18, 2008 10:02 am

I'm not sure that everyone who ever really liked metal will continue being a metalhead forever. In my own experience though, it does seem that loyalty to the genre and interest in the music has a tendency to be there all the time. My best friends from when I grew up are still into metal. It's 25 years ago now that we sat in my basement listening to Maiden, Priest, Rainbow, Oz, TNT, Krokus, Motorhead and so on. We keep in touch through the Internet and the conversation often still is about metal - old bands and new.

As you get older, you may find less time in your life for metal, but the dedication is still there, so as a conclusion, I think most metalheads stay metal at heart.